Established 2011

Grab the girls

What we mean when we say girls

Girls isn’t a gender here. It’s who she’d call first.

We say it all the time. Grab the girls. Get the girls together. Some people read that and know straight away it means them. Some people pause, because they’re not sure it means them, or someone she’d never get married without. If that’s why you’re here, here’s the proper answer, so nobody has to guess.

Tell us about her girls So who counts?
Three friends in pyjamas and pink feather boas jumping on a hotel bed between balloons
A bride and her mum smiling together in fresh flower crowns
A laughing bride to be in a short veil hugging her friend on a night out

What the word is doing

Girls is a relationship, not a gender

Her girls are the ones who know her whole history.

  • The ones who knew her before the job title, the mortgage and the person she’s marrying.
  • The ones who showed up.
  • The ones who’ll still be in the group chat in thirty years.

That’s what the word is doing when we say it. It describes a kind of connection. It has never described a gender, and it doesn’t expire.

A hens group in white robes squeezed together and smiling inside a barrel sauna

What her hens actually is

You already know what it looks like

Someone’s kicked her heels off. The second bottle is open. Nobody has looked at a phone in three hours, and the stories have gone from her first date to the dress to something that happened in Year 10 and back again. Everyone in the room has the full context. Nobody has had to explain a single thing about themselves all night.

That’s what we build. Which makes the only real question who’s in the room with her.

Three friends in heart pyjamas and fluffy slippers in a bathtub full of balloons, champagne raised
Two friends laughing as champagne is poured, one with a sleep mask pushed up on her head
Three friends in heart sunglasses and sequins holding disco ball cups in front of a silver tinsel wall
A group in pink pyjamas and heart sunglasses piled onto a bed with balloons

So who counts?

Who’s in the room with her

The henWhoever’s saying I do

  • If she’s a trans woman, it’s her hens. We’re not going to make a whole thing of that, because it isn’t a whole thing.
  • If there are two brides, there are two hens. One big party together or one each, that’s their call. Our LGBTQIA+ hens parties page has ideas for both.
  • If they’re non-binary and girlhood is where their people are, it’s their hens. That’s the entire criterion.

Her girlsEveryone she’d call first

  • Her mum, her two sisters and her mother-in-law? That’s her girls.
  • Four women from work she met eighteen months ago who already know everything? Her girls.
  • Thirty, fifty-five and seventy-eight in one booth? Her girls, and honestly one of the best hens we get to build.
  • A trans woman in the group? One of the girls. Non-binary and part of her girlhood? One of the girls.

And if one of her girls is a bloke, then he’s one of her girls. You know exactly which one he is. Bring him.

Is there a line anywhere?

One, and it has nothing to do with gender

Her people, not their plus-ones.

A hens works because everyone in the room is there for her, with their own history with her, and nobody is somebody else’s guest. You already know the answer for every name on the list.

If you’re the one organising this

You’re probably the reason this page exists

You’re not thinking about yourself. You’re thinking about one name on the list, and making sure her night is as easy as everyone else’s. And you were never going to raise it in the group chat, because raising it makes it a thing.

So raise it with us instead. Say it once, to one person, and then it’s ours. You go back to being at her hens instead of watching the room.

Tell us once

NamesPronounsAnything you’d rather we simply knew

Same as every hens we build: you organised it, so you get to enjoy it.

Tell us about her girls
A big hens group in cowboy boots on a couch with their arms up under pink, gold and silver balloons

Who’s My Ultimate Hens?

You’re about to tell us everything, so meet the girls

We use the word on ourselves too. Female founded in 2011, still led by Nyree, and these are some of the girls you’ll be talking to, texting and sending screenshots of her dress to.

  • NyreeFounder, and Mother Hen to thousands of brides
  • Maddi
  • James
  • Chloe
  • Nikita
  • Josh
  • Britt
  • Alex

Every one of them is one of the girls.

More about who we are

Why you can take this at face value

What we do off the page

Anyone can write a page like this one. The reason to believe it is what the business does when nobody is reading.

My Ultimate Hens is a major corporate sponsor of Share the Dignity, and has been for years.

Share the Dignity is an Australian charity working on menstrual equity. They get period products to people experiencing homelessness, escaping domestic violence, or simply unable to afford them. They run Dignity Drives. They have put more than a thousand free period product vending machines into schools and community spaces around the country. And every November they run It’s in the Bag, where people fill a handbag with essentials so women and girls waking up in a refuge or a shelter on Christmas Day have something of their own.

  • Our logo travels on the Share the Dignity van that delivers around the country.
  • Our team packs bags for It’s in the Bag every year.
  • We’ve contributed hundreds of period products alongside the money.
  • Every hens we run is part of what keeps it going.

We’ve put this here on purpose. The whole point of Share the Dignity’s work is that nobody should have to explain herself, prove her circumstances or be quietly embarrassed to be treated with basic dignity. That isn’t a separate idea from the one at the top of this page. It’s the same one, and we’ve been acting on it for a long time.

My Ultimate Hens and Share the Dignity Visit Share the Dignity
Two polaroids of the pink Share the Dignity van, one with two women from our team standing beside it, captioned My Ultimate x Share the Dignity

Asked often, answered properly

Who can come to a hens: your questions

Is a My Ultimate Hens party only for women?

No. We build every hens around the bride and her people, and when we say girls we mean a relationship, not a gender. Trans women, non-binary people and anyone who genuinely belongs in her circle belong at her hens.

Can guys come to a hens party?

Yes, if he’s one of her people. If one of her girls is a bloke, he’s one of her girls. Who’s on the guest list is the bride’s call, and the package is built around her, not around who’s coming.

Can a trans woman have a hens party?

Of course. If she’s the bride, it’s her hens. If she’s on the guest list, she’s one of the girls. No asterisk.

Can non-binary people come to a hens?

Yes. If girlhood is where their people are, they’re in, whether they’re a guest or the one getting married.

Do you do hens parties for two brides?

Yes. Two brides means two hens: one big party together or one each, whatever suits them. Our LGBTQIA+ hens parties page has ideas for both.

Can I bring her mum, her sister or her mother-in-law?

Yes. Mixed ages make some of the best hens we build. Tell us who’s coming and we’ll check what fits the whole group.

What if someone in the group is worried about being misgendered?

Tell us once, privately: names, pronouns, anything you’d rather we simply knew. Then it’s ours, and you get back to enjoying her hens.

Does the group have to be a certain size?

Not for her girls. Each package has its own minimum group size, shown on its page, and there are packages made for smaller groups too.

Keep going

Where to next

Pink cocktails garnished with tiny disco balls and mint

Still dreaming

Find her idea

Not sure what she’d love yet? Start with ideas sorted by the kind of bride she is.

Hens party ideas
Three friends in sequin dresses on a pink sofa in a disco-themed lounge

Ready to look

Find the package

Every package shows what’s included and the price per person, right on its page.

See all hens party packages

Your move

Girls, here, means her people. Grab them.

Tell us who’s coming, which city, and what she’s like. We’ll check what’s free for her date.

Tell us about her girls Or call 1300 339 734